tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post2735321037135528128..comments2023-10-03T12:22:01.476-04:00Comments on Sobermomat53: Day 95 - Secret QuitterSober at 53http://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-27660517572420293582016-05-13T22:38:34.186-04:002016-05-13T22:38:34.186-04:00I hope people get used to it! I have a couples we...I hope people get used to it! I have a couples weekend away next week and there will be a lot of alcohol. These people aren't crazy drinkers but they plan on "partying" over the weekend! I will bring my AF beer! And use my line "I love the test of alcohol but I don't like how it makes me feel." This will explain the AF beer! xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-83206587687740389922016-05-13T22:36:31.560-04:002016-05-13T22:36:31.560-04:00Thanks Wendy! I didn't even waiver. I went i...Thanks Wendy! I didn't even waiver. I went in to the mtg. knowing that I wasn't going to drink. I was just caught so off guard! It can be lonely holding this HUGE secret...but not as lonely as the secret of drinking too much! xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-66675247131094297782016-05-13T22:35:16.070-04:002016-05-13T22:35:16.070-04:00Hi NW! I have practiced and practiced lines in my...Hi NW! I have practiced and practiced lines in my head and to my husband...but put the pressure on me and I just flub my lines! My line is "I quit for Lent and just never went back." OR "I love the test of alcohol but I don't like how it makes me feel." (the latter is really helpful when I am having an AF beer in public!) xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-48961981340129772712016-05-13T22:32:34.461-04:002016-05-13T22:32:34.461-04:00I was very taken aback by her "pressure."...I was very taken aback by her "pressure." I think she was just surprised! And I was surprised as well! I guess nobody likes when their "gift" is not accepted! xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-78619773826875355612016-05-13T22:30:53.858-04:002016-05-13T22:30:53.858-04:00It is sooooo nice to have the sober verse! It hel...It is sooooo nice to have the sober verse! It helped me so very very much!!! I get so much wonderful advice and I particularly love when someone is/has walked in my shoes! xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-49696141731563132692016-05-13T22:29:50.618-04:002016-05-13T22:29:50.618-04:00I know she didn't mean it. I think she was su...I know she didn't mean it. I think she was surprised as I have never been known to be a teetotaler..until now...literally and figuratively! I even brought tea to her house! xo<br /><br />Sober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-12863493667274534442016-05-13T22:28:43.259-04:002016-05-13T22:28:43.259-04:00I am not brave enough to show my face at a meeting...I am not brave enough to show my face at a meeting. I tried once a few years ago and felt very uncomfortable. But, now that I have some experience with sobriety, it could be something I try again one day. xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-55816413548630775722016-05-13T21:55:52.388-04:002016-05-13T21:55:52.388-04:00I"ve been pretty quiet about quitting, too. I...I"ve been pretty quiet about quitting, too. I told a few people, but many people don't know. I've found that by now people who used to push drinks at me and were awkward about me saying no, like your friend, have got used to it. They're not even remotely curious now when I order a sparking water. This really does seem to be something that's different for different people, but being mostly secret works for me. Good to see you doing so well! xoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08288935120774241198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-89544222225712286902016-05-13T19:48:45.308-04:002016-05-13T19:48:45.308-04:00It is only your business.
This last time I told ev...It is only your business.<br />This last time I told everyone because I needed to be accountable.<br />But every person is different!<br />I too am impressed that you stayed strong and said no!<br />xo<br />Wendy<br />PS - 95 Days is excellent!Untipsyteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14975521042875808241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-49297180345307139942016-05-13T14:06:04.755-04:002016-05-13T14:06:04.755-04:00SD/SQ....me too, me too! Same thing...to understa...SD/SQ....me too, me too! Same thing...to understand why quitting is important, someone would have to know how much I was drinkng. And I'm not really anout to share that.<br /><br />And just whose business is it, anway? I thnk the only thing we can do is to be prepared with a script....for various invites/urgings/situations, etc. New diet? Tummy upset??<br /><br />One line I've been trying out (mentally) is: 'I decided to quit for a while.' And if asked 'why'...gearing mself up to say: 'Because I wasnt quitting...so it seemed like a good idea.' <br /><br />Northwoman1996https://www.blogger.com/profile/09855277712359787495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-22061996509010875612016-05-13T11:33:29.764-04:002016-05-13T11:33:29.764-04:00Secret drinker and secret quitter here too. You we...Secret drinker and secret quitter here too. You were so strong to say no to your friend. I hope I have your strengh if im ever in a similar situation. I know you worry that you may have hurt her feelings but I bet she will not pressure you again. <br />As a fellow secret quitter I dont want people to know I had/have a problem, therefore I dont want them to know my reason for quitting. However, I have found that if I tell people something like, I just dont want to drink. They just seem to accept that. strange eh. Some people do ask why and I shrug it off saying 'im over it' or 'it doesnt bother me' (what a joke right!) Most people dont say anything or say 'cool, I wish I could' :) The reality is most people really dont care if we dont drink. We as ex drinkers are much more sensitive to this. You are doing this for you and that is all that matters. In time if you want to tell more people (in real life) then do. This is your sobriety and it will be done your way. Big hugs. MrsMachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12900184378230092473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-48129458991967383152016-05-13T11:31:56.603-04:002016-05-13T11:31:56.603-04:00Secret drinker and secret quitter here too. You we...Secret drinker and secret quitter here too. You were so strong to say no to your friend. I hope I have your strengh if im ever in a similar situation. I know you worry that you may have hurt her feelings but I bet she will not pressure you again. <br />As a fellow secret quitter I dont want people to know I had/have a problem, therefore I dont want them to know my reason for quitting. However, I have found that if I tell people something like, I just dont want to drink. They just seem to accept that. strange eh. Some people do ask why and I shrug it off saying 'im over it' or 'it doesnt bother me' (what a joke right!) Most people dont say anything or say 'cool, I wish I could' :) The reality is most people really dont care if we dont drink. We as ex drinkers are much more sensitive to this. You are doing this for you and that is all that matters. In time if you want to tell more people (in real life) then do. This is your sobriety and it will be done your way. Big hugs. MrsMachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12900184378230092473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-81142592348095038412016-05-13T11:15:13.264-04:002016-05-13T11:15:13.264-04:00Secret quitter here too. This is why this online ...Secret quitter here too. This is why this online universe is so helpful. I can spill my guts, get it off my chest, feel like I told my "secret" to the girlfriends without going through all the associated drama...the sideways looks, whisperings (even if done in a nice way), wonderings, etc.HabitDonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15185750276731609856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-28026219222510314942016-05-13T09:49:26.302-04:002016-05-13T09:49:26.302-04:00Secret drinker and quitter here too! It was enoug...Secret drinker and quitter here too! It was enough for me to tell my husband everything as I'd been working up to that for at least a year. Boy oh boy did your friend unintentionally pressure you! Sounds like there was a lot behind what she was saying - sad that you're not joining her to drink and maybe a little envy about your strength. Congratulations on staying strong through that! I think so many are in the same boat. It's one thing to tell family but it can take a lot of time to go public with others. It's ok to wait or to never tell. Especially if it could jeopardize your progress. Ripleybellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08484735194209368209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-90144606310619152662016-05-13T03:43:37.578-04:002016-05-13T03:43:37.578-04:00I'm kind of a secret quitter too. My family k...I'm kind of a secret quitter too. My family know I'm not drinking 'at the moment' and a few friends know too. But I haven't made a big announcement yet. I'm not sure if I will or not. So I feel pretty alone in this. I'm thinking of going to a meeting to find some in real life support. A xAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553400229726508527noreply@blogger.com