tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post3827593135237213024..comments2023-10-03T12:22:01.476-04:00Comments on Sobermomat53: Day 101 - Triggers vs. CravingsSober at 53http://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-41255878071230609922016-05-18T23:21:59.129-04:002016-05-18T23:21:59.129-04:00Too bad we can't avoid those triggers...but th...Too bad we can't avoid those triggers...but then we'd probably have to be comatose! It's the "reward" process that I have to work on in my mind. So far I have been successful, but that thought of celebrating with a glass of wine really freaked me out!! xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-30159046098082173042016-05-18T23:20:27.385-04:002016-05-18T23:20:27.385-04:00In reading your post Wendy, it made me think about...In reading your post Wendy, it made me think about exactly what my triggers are. Oye vey...I have so very many! Ugh!! xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-80991958895824455092016-05-18T23:19:17.024-04:002016-05-18T23:19:17.024-04:00So happy to know that I am not alone!! I was worr...So happy to know that I am not alone!! I was worried! When will that mentality go away???? xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-59836517381698764702016-05-18T23:18:50.527-04:002016-05-18T23:18:50.527-04:00I do prefer the "happy" triggers!! If o...I do prefer the "happy" triggers!! If only there could be no unhappy ones!!xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-52468187745967847442016-05-18T23:18:11.085-04:002016-05-18T23:18:11.085-04:00I hear you NW!!! Who cares what it is called? Wh...I hear you NW!!! Who cares what it is called? When it comes, it comes!!! xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-92073437511701626852016-05-18T23:17:37.945-04:002016-05-18T23:17:37.945-04:00Right? It is impossible to avoid triggers!! Impo...Right? It is impossible to avoid triggers!! Impossible! xoSober at 53https://www.blogger.com/profile/01854891164320066847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-69780925132157840592016-05-18T19:26:15.975-04:002016-05-18T19:26:15.975-04:00Thanks for this. It's interesting isn't it...Thanks for this. It's interesting isn't it? But I don't know if you can avoid triggers. For example, a certain activity might be a trigger. But does that mean you can't do the activity anymore? I think as long as you don't act on the trigger, or reward with wine like you said, that's the main thing. Congrats on day 101! A xAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553400229726508527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-2533885141465739332016-05-18T19:16:44.529-04:002016-05-18T19:16:44.529-04:00...reading about someone drinking. True! Or those ......reading about someone drinking. True! Or those dang guzzlers on TV's Bluebloods, settling down at night with lovely, amber-hued glasses of scotch!Northwoman1996https://www.blogger.com/profile/09855277712359787495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-54602903846774689912016-05-18T18:56:46.818-04:002016-05-18T18:56:46.818-04:00My triggers are seeing a liquor store, watching ot...My triggers are seeing a liquor store, watching other people drink, being at a small dinner party with good drinking, friends, and sometimes reading about someone drinking.<br />I can't avoid some of these things, but I have learned I don't have to act on the thought.<br />You are doing so well!<br />Happy 101!!<br />xo<br />WendyUntipsyteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14975521042875808241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-77079717049677890492016-05-18T17:42:03.726-04:002016-05-18T17:42:03.726-04:00Ha! I did that the other day. I have a crappy pile...Ha! I did that the other day. I have a crappy pile of paperwork to do and I immediately thought to pour self glass of wine and settle down to sorting it, then I remembered I don't drink, doh! Realised I used to treat myself to wine to do the house jobs I don't like. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-69943076041411064822016-05-18T15:21:36.867-04:002016-05-18T15:21:36.867-04:00I use 'trigger' and craving' to mean t...I use 'trigger' and craving' to mean the same thing too! But now I see that they are different. Isn't it strange how being happy/celebratory can trigger us? We like the feeling and want to duplicate again and again with more and more drinks. I went headlong into triggers 24 hours into sobriety. Every school night with my boys is filled with them. And yes, the more exposure I get to them, the easier they are to navigate. Ripleybellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08484735194209368209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-34311826667431390552016-05-18T13:32:35.941-04:002016-05-18T13:32:35.941-04:00I'm sure theres a difference between 'trig...I'm sure theres a difference between 'trigger' and 'craving,' but when the lonelies come calling on a friday or saturday night.....theyre one and the same!Northwoman1996https://www.blogger.com/profile/09855277712359787495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7562529066027046102.post-68763079482423296942016-05-18T12:47:42.476-04:002016-05-18T12:47:42.476-04:00This was a great post and good way to look at the ...This was a great post and good way to look at the differences! I totally agree with the finding about trigger and reward. At first I was scared about trying to enjoy cocktail hour without wine. It was hard at first and I was grouchy. I couldn't figure out what to talk about and wanted to roll my eyes at what hubby talked about. Now I'm starting to enjoy cocktail hour outside again, I just assume I'm not drinking, decision done, and so it's not as much my focus. I'm also having fun with the mocktail development. I think not facing our triggers keeps us in deprivation mode and that's hard to sustain!HabitDonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15185750276731609856noreply@blogger.com