May 18, 2016
Thank you so much for celebrating my 100 Days Sober with me y'day!!! I really appreciated all of the comments and emails!! Thank you so very much! So happy to have found this sober blog world!
That being said, this afternoon, while so happy about today, I thought to myself "I will have to celebrate with a drink tonight!" WTF? That got me thinking...is it a trigger or a craving?
trigger: something that causes something else to happen
craving: a powerful desire for something
I kind of always lumped them together. Today, my celebratory happiness was a trigger. Luckily, it didn't cause a craving. But, it was paralyzing! I couldn't believe it happened. And, it felt so natural! And, yes, when I realized that I don't drink, I was sad!
I wonder if a trigger always precedes a craving? Can you just have a plain old craving for wine? Does it have to be triggered by something?
I am realizing that the "triggers" are something I really have to watch out for. That trigger could lead to a craving! I am hoping, that over time, there will be little to no triggers. I guess I have to work on the triggers...can you even help them? Like today, should I not have been happy so I didn't have a trigger? What should I do instead? I can't avoid all things that may cause a trigger. Maybe you just have to recognize that a trigger is just a trigger and you don't have to act upon it. This led me to do a google search. I found an article in Psychology Today about triggers and cravings. Interestingly, it said this:
"...the simplest way to break the trigger-response connection is simply repeated exposure without the reward. As bizarre as this may seem, staying away from the triggers can make their ability to bring back the old drug-behavior stronger." Adi Jaffe, Ph.D.
So, I guess I answered one of my questions! Don't stay away from the triggers! Could that really be right? I don't know.
As I've moved along in my sobriety journey, I have found that the cravings are way less then they were when I first started, but the triggers are all still there.
So a wise word to myself:
BEWARE OF THE TRIGGERS!!! DO NOT REWARD THEM WITH WINE!
Hoping you have a trigger and craving free day!
Sober at 53