April 28, 2016
I have a very good friend whom also drinks too much and is struggling getting to sobriety. She also has had a lot of Day 1's. She decided to go the Addiction Specialist route. Today was her first appointment...it was a 3 hour appt. The Addiction Specialist (AS) works in a way that I had never considered...thus, it made me wonder if my "white knuckling" it will ultimately be successful (I am VERY hopeful that it will!) The AS explained to my friend that when you excessively drink, you are using the alcohol to medicate your problems. If you work on your problems, and ultimately get rid of them there will be no need for you to medicate, thus, you won't drink to mask anything. (I liken this to someone who takes medicine for high cholesterol..If you work hard with diet, exercise, etc. to reduce your cholesterol, you can eventually stop taking the medicine or cut down on your dosage.) She went on to say that maybe one day my friend might be able to go to a restaurant once or twice a month and have 1 or 2 glasses of wine each time!!!
Now, my friend was very honest about how much she drank. Very honest. She was so surprised that this was the method...and she was a bit excited about the possibility of MODERATION!!!!
I really wonder about this method. I've even googled it using various phrases and still couldn't find anything! I've always wanted to be a moderate drinker..but know I can't! I am skeptical. And, also, probably a bit jealous...MODERATION!!!!
I am happy for my friend that she is trying to stop drinking. I know the saying "whatever works for you" is the right answer for each of us. I chose the the white knuckling route, some go the AA route, some go the AS route...etc. But I have NEVER heard of this other route! I wonder if it is easier? Can you work on your problems while you are still drinking? I don't think I could've...but I never even tried! I didn't even realize what they were....In fact, at day 81, I am sill discovering what they are!
Of course, I did not voice my doubts to my friend. Maybe this will be her way. Who am I to say that this won't work for her? Who am I to say that she can never moderate?
What if my method of quitting is not the best way for lasting success?
I am curious to what you think of this other method of working on your problems to be able to stop drinking (medicating). It really has me perplexed!
Wishing you success in whatever method you use to quit the booze!
Sober at 53